How to wing it!

I hate winter. Seriously. Did you hear me? I can’t stand this darkness and cold weather. It’s getting on my already very worn out nerves.

I wake up in the morning and venture out there for God knows what reason. Oh yeah, to loose a few pounds because this society says that I am FAT. Society says: Lose weight, measure your waist, don’t eat this, don’t eat that, die healthy and skinny.

And it’s cold as Hell. My nature is to stay inside, eat chocolate, potato chips and other cool foods – and drink lots of Coke and hot chocolate with tons of whipped cream on top. Why can’t I just do that? Does God really mean for us to be so healthy it’s killing every single little ounce of joy in life?

I wonder. What are your thoughts on weight loss, joy, Christmas, cold weather and such?

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I am going to my first Cliff Richard concert in ages and should I let that event slip between my Blogging fingers and not comment at all?

Nah. I am a fan, after all, and this is – you might say – the end of an era. Cliff Richard and The Shadows are an institution in the music industry. Cliff Richard himself brought rock‘n’roll to Britain. The Shadows have thrilled fans worldwide for eons.

Now they’re on their 50th anniversary tour, an accomplishment that very few musicians out there can brag about. I can’t believe I am so lucky that I’ll be sitting right there – now and then standing and wiggling around – and watching this event take place IRL. It’s such an honor. I am sure I will walk away with the feeling of having witnessed a WONDER. Kinda like the folks who were priviledged enough to watch Elvis on stage. It’s just something you never forget.

I will bring a camera along – not the video camera, though  because I borrowed it off my brother and I am so afraid to lose it somewhere. I will bring a borrowed digital camera and take lots of photos along the way.

The concert is on the 25th. The last time I was at a Cliff concert, I was 4 months pregnant and my son is now a full grown young man aged 10 – and he vows to never ever go to another Cliff concert ever again. Young people these days..they have no class

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Can we all agree that buying an actual lie detector and strapping it to your wife or husband on a daily basis would be a bad idea? Trust me, it won’t be appreciated.

But there is hope. If you are a distrustful person and feel the need to check up on your spouse every so often, you can start by being your own lie detector. Read his or her body language carefully.

For example, if someone is lying, there will be very limited body expressions. Stiff face, few arm and hand gestures and also very little eye contact. Another sign is lots of scratching the nose or the ear or the beard..(IF YOUR WIFE IS SCRATCHING HER FACIAL HAIR, YOU MIGHT WANNA TALK ABOUT WAYS TO DEAL WITH FEMALE FACIAL HAIR, THOUGH).

This next tip is a really good one: If someone lies, their emotional gestures will be displayed later than the actual thing they are reacting to. An example, you give someone a present – let’s say you get your wife cheap lingerie for her birthday – if you see her opening the present, saying “thanks honey” and then smiling AFTER she has thanked you, it means she is probably lying and not very thankful at all. If she loved the lingerie, she would smile the moment she unwrapped it. Get what I mean?

He or she protests too much. Liars get totally defensive because they are vigorously trying to defend something that isn’t true. It’s like they turn it up a notch. Maybe the liar will place something between the two of you, like a cup or a book – to get some distance.

A liar is very likely to repeat YOUR words in their defense. “Did you steal my bike??” – the answer will be “No I did not steal your bike”. Notice the repetition? Also there will be way too many details in their story. They’ve probably spent quite a lot of time making this story up and so they have thought of every detail but in actuality, if you tell the truth, you don’t talk about every single detail of your story.

Try changing the subject and see if your spouse gets a little too relieved by this change of conversation.
That could also be a sign that he or she is a liar.

Now don’t go accusing everybody around you of being liars because they scratch their nose in front of you. You’re gonna need this whole package to be present in order to even begin being suspicious.

Hope you found these little SPOT A LIAR tips useful.

Alright I am up WAY early this Saturday morning because I’ve promised to clean my parent’s kitchen – well at least some of it – and I figure this will be my exercise for today. Crawling around in the dirt between pots and pans and tons of Tupperware. Nah, just kidding, my parents are not Tupperware people.

Anyway, I don’t have time to sit here. Off to work – and I will see you guys later.

Totally gonna go shower now…not just kinda gonna go shower..am REALLY gonna go shower. For real. Addicted to the internet? Me? Smelly? No!!!

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I’m sure I am not the only one who feels trapped in a world that is not very loving. In the morning I wake up and immediately have this awful feeling that something is off balance; that quite possibly it’s off because of me and I must go through the day knowing I am to blame and worst of all, I can do nothing to change it. I have no power of time, I cannot undo things. It’s a very exhausting way to live. It’s energy draining and painful and this is how I live. It’s a very personal thing to write here but I wanna share with you a little experiment I am going to do over the next few weeks.

Today I was surfing online and discovered some videos by Byron Katie, an American speaker and author who teaches how to have an inquiring mind. As soon as I saw the first couple of videos, it dawned on me…
that I am not ever questioning my thoughts. They’re how the world IS -frozen and not able to change.  Misery was a fact, something I had to live with. That’s what I thought. Now I am entertaining the thought that the world is how I perceive it. It might be bogus; I don’t know yet – but it’s worth investigating over time.

Let me just quickly introduce The Work by Byron Katie for you. It’s a worksheet developed in order to make you question your own thought patterns. You start off by making a statement, identify a belief that you have about the world, for example “I am too fat”.

Then what you do is question this thought by asking 4 questions.

1. Is this true?
2. Can you absolutely know it’s true?
3. How do you react, what happens when you have this thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?

Once you have answered the questions, turn the statement around. If your statement was “I am too fat”, turn it around to “I am not too fat”. Now try to find examples of this statement being true.  If your statement was “My parents never loved me”, try turning it around to either “My parents always loved me” or “I never loved myself”.

It’s actually very basic: Make a statement, ask 4 questions, then turn the statement around.

I am going to work with this worksheet for a while and see what happens in my life.

I do know I need to change my thought patterns because they are truly weighing me down.  One big eye opener already this morning – which is also personal but I will share it here :

For a long time my man Kurt has been telling me how beautiful he thinks I am. We’re talking physically here right now – he says I have a beautiful smile and I am just plain gorgeous. I understand now I have been trying to take this reality away from him and enforcing my own reality: No I am just ugly, I am too fat, I am not attractive. I have been throwing my truths in his face, trying to control him and control his thoughts. To change his reality into my own.

Can I know for a fact that I am ugly and over weight? Can I know it to be absolutely true? No. I have no scale to measure beauty by. I can’t define beauty.

How do I feel when I have the thought that I am ugly and over weight? I feel worthless, drained of energy. I feel like a failure, a disappointment to him and me. I feel like he could do better and he is wasting time with me.

Who would I be without the thought “I am ugly and over weight”? I would be very happy and feel so free. I would be relaxed. I would be smiling a lot more and able to enjoy life more. I would have more time on my hands to focus my energy on positive things. I would be more happy with myself.

Turn it around:  I am not ugly and I am not over weight. I am willing to experience the thought that I am not ugly and I am not over weight. I am looking forward to experience the thought that I am not ugly and I am not over weight.

This is only one of the statements I carry around in my life about myself and the world. There are tons of them and lots of work to do. I think it will be very healing for me to venture on this journey and I will try to take you with me for some of the questions. Watch this space

Here’s the story. I was at the supermarket and had to pick between all the colors on the shelf. Now, I always tend to choose a color that doesn’t ever show – it’s honestly like there is no difference at all when I’ve dyed my hair. So today I figured I’d go all out and make a HUGE change.

So I dyed it red. It’s called Hot Red.. LOL. I am now scaring myself every time I pass a mirror – I get this instant urge to call the fire department – but I suppose I will get used to it. Bring on all your red hair jokes..come on, I am waiting..

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Monday is usually a day where lots of practical stuff has to be done at my place because I tend to spend all Sunday whining and complaining about how much I need to do and how I don’t feel like it. So Monday it is.

Take today, for example…
I wake up with absolutely no food in the fridge, thus no breakfast. Cos of course I didn’t do enough shopping Saturday to last me until a good part of Monday. I’m 36 and still haven’t learned. It’s okay though. I am on the road to change; I can just feel it

I’ve got a long grocery list in front of me and I am not stressing one bit, actually. Why (I usually would) ? Because I am testing something in my life. Freedom. Although I have to be aware that my mind seeks freedom every second of the day, it’s a brand new thing that I am even aware of how un-free I have been and I am so determined to make a change. I mean, come on, I have been so entirely stressed out that my hair has fallen out during the past six months! It’s just no good. I will never completely shake off all my concerns and worries but an attempt to free myself must be made – at least to the point where I let some sunshine and happiness into my life.

First step to becoming more free and happy: Try smiling for at least ½ hour per day, not necessarily in one stretch – but smiling MUST be achieved. It’s a part of being free.

I wish you all a happy day.

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I really wish I could play the guitar. It always soothes me to listen to acoustic guitar music. Luckily my man Kurt is an excellent guitar player so I am hoping he will take time out between magic performances to teach me!

Then I could be sitting at home, video blogging and playing the guitar; creating our own blog intro’s! Man, that would be so cool.

Just a little bubble thought this morning …

Yeah I guess I am feeling kinda tired tonight. I’m up for sale. In parts.

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